Dr. Varma told me today that I need to:
"get Nolen into see Dr. Meltzer again for another recomendation for his head- It just doesn't look right, Do you see how his left ear is curled more than the other because of his bone?,You need to fight this, You need to definetly have this taken care of ASAP, He just doesn't look right"
"He's not crawling? Don't put him in his bouncer anymore- you shouldn't do that- you are making it too easy for him- dont. MAKE him crawl- he NEEDS to crawl- you really shouldn't be making it easy for him"
"I'm not happy about his weight. He should weigh more. Do you feed him enough? Do you breastfeed? Give him formula. Come back in a month- he is not at a good weight"
ALL RIGHT ALREADY DR. VARMA! I HEAR YOU! POKE MY SON A LITTLE MORE AND MAKE HIM SCREAM LOUDER.
I think I am a good mom. Sure, his head is big and uneven-so what? Everyone stops to tell me how cute he is wherever we go. Sure, he needs to crawl- he will. And sure he may be underweight- but you know what??? He's healthly and happy!!
And my boy is 9 months old today. I love him. I didn't love him so much this afternoon when he was a "baby" at the doctor's office- my wonderful husband took him away for some "daddy/son" time and for me to have a break. wonderful.
Nolen brightens my day-EVERYDAY.
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Juls - I am loving that family pic of y'all at the top of your blog. I agree - Nolen is adorable - and way for Dr. V to make you feel just SO great about all that you're doing and sacrificing for your little guy. I tell Logan all the time he needs to validate moms if he's going to be a pediatrician - and not make them feel bad. Because Gavin's only 3 months old and I've already had many " I just need to walk away moments". Yea for your awesome husband to give you some much needed alone time. I knew motherhood would be fun & great, but I'm surprised at just how much you do have to sacrifice and be selfless. Girl, you know Nolen better than a pediatrician does and how he compares to some national standard.
And seriously, he's dang cute - and I'm not biast.
Love your posts - I love being able to catch up and see what you & your darling family are up to, even if it's through the blogging/internet world.
Miss & love ya,
Ash
Holy Cow your doctor was on one!! Nolen looks fine. I really can't see anything wrong with his head and Hallie will for sure still marry him even if one ear does curl a little more than the other. :) Jeeze Louise!! I agree that you are a good mom and I think it is great that you are not worried about him crawling etc. it will come when he wants to.
I'm sad that I wasn't in Utah to see you when you were there. It would have been so fun to catch up. It's has been forever.
I agree with Brittany, your doctor was on one! Those non utah Drs seem a little intense. You are right, every baby has its own milestones! Forget what your dr says.
And about the head...you did your best. The helmet was used at the right age and got the best results you could get! Maddux had his helmet until 11 months, and from 10-11 months he had 0 change. You probably know this, but it is nearly impossible to reshape a baby's head after 7 months. You are right, every head is different, and Nolen's looks great!
My friendly advice, once Nolen starts crawling, he will be wiggling in his bed and his head will change sleeping positions all the time. His head will round out all on its own. Maddux's left ear is way tilted down because that side of his head is still protruding, but there is nothing we can do. It is hard as a parent to let go, but it is all we can do!
I can't wait to hear the results of the Dr appt about his head shape. I wonder if he will say the same thing as me!
Hang in there and good luck with tummy time!
ahhh juls, can you switch doctors??! seriously!
what an awful day.
your opinion is just as valid as his, and i think you'd feel better if you talked to another dr. who had a little more tact. why didn't he recommend a nose job while he was at it?
i know you're going to pay attention to what the dr. said because they don't realize how deep they can cut with their comments. just hold your head up, you're a good mom!
I agree. Get a new pediatrician. I have never had a pediatrician that over the top. Seriously. Your son looks adorable and well taken care of!
Hi Julianna,
I read your blog a few days ago, and I felt like I wanted to respond. I don't know your e mail address or phone number so here goes...... I hope you find these thoughts and experiences helpful.
First, you bet, Nolen is a very cute baby, no doubt about it. Next, doctors are humans too and sometimes they come across grouchy, mean or what I think to be worse - aloof! They are however more knowledgeable about norms and general health than you and I. It may be your particular doctor's way of trying to get a point across. If you don't communicate well with this doctor you really should look into finding one who you can work with better. That is the most important thing you could be doing for Nolen. Next you should consider that his doctor sees cute babies all day long, that is not a criteria of his/hers. Tristan was born with two physical issues that needed to be addressed and corrected. That did not change how cute I (or others)thought he was, however if I had left those issues be, he would have been able to shoot food out of his nose and he would have been pigeon toed for the rest of his life. I can't imagine having a conversation with him later in his life in which he asked me why I decided not to do what the pediatrician advised to do and answering him by saying that I thought at the time that he was cute. The surgeon that fixed Tristan's palate was a brilliant surgeon with absolutely NO bedside manner at all. I was kind of afraid of him, but the work he did for my baby boy was amazing and I am grateful for his knowledge and expertise everyday!
Lastly, what a huge responsibility parenthood is! I am certain that you and Owen are both very capable of knowing and doing what will be best for Nolen and future Sneads! This is one of those times that all us old ladies tried to warn you about when we said parenthood is one of the most wonderful and difficult things you will ever do.
Much love~
Ellen
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